Tired of getting bitched at and overdrawing account, should I take this job anyway?

I vote to take the job. He wants to call you a lousy mother for having someone else look after your child for two months? Well what is he for having to go to another country to work? Does that make him a lousy father? No. It means that both of you are making sacrifices in order to support yourself, your child, and maintain your marriage. It's only 2 months. Your son is 17. He's not a baby. He'll be alright. He'll be more thankful that you're getting your finances on track, helping his father come home, and maintaining your marriage. He's almost an adult, he'll see where you are coming from with that. If he is with a trusted friend, then there should not be a problem. You need to do what you feel is best for you and your family. He doesn't seem to have any real reasons for opposing this. Thinking you just want to get some California friends is clearly irrational. I think he more than likely simply feels inadequate and defeated and emasculated that you're having to do this to support the family. He's probably feeling insecure because he hasn't been able to do it himself.